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Mar 5, 2021

5 Dating Tips I Shouldn’t Have to Give 30-Something Men

The Guidebook for 30-something guys who somehow don’t know this yet…? — Hello, 30-something-year-old-man whose dating app photos depict selfies of you from various angles in your car wearing sunglasses. Are you struggling to connect with someone special past just one date? Here is your painfully obvious, definitive guide on what to do…and what not to do. 1.) Ask her questions about herself Is she asking you questions…

Dating

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5 Dating Tips I Shouldn’t Have to Give 30-Something Men
5 Dating Tips I Shouldn’t Have to Give 30-Something Men

Oct 10, 2020

The Man Who Predicts Earthquakes

The Case for Pseudoscience — I can’t stand people who promote unproven COVID remedies, think that masks weaken our immune systems, and suspect that the whole thing is a hoax. I am extremely critical of “scientific” claims which are criticized by the majority of experts in the related fields. …

Science

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The Man Who Predicts Earthquakes
The Man Who Predicts Earthquakes

Published in Heart Affairs

·Sep 17, 2020

Reframing Relationships: Alternatives (That Aren’t All Polyamory!)

The times they are a-changin'…so why aren’t relationship models? — Usually, when I hear someone talk about ‘alternatives’ to traditional relationships, I roll my eyes and groan. Secretly. While I feign interest. Not another millennial obsessed with polyamory, I think. It’s not that I have anything wrong, exactly, with polyamory; it’s great that it works for some people…But it’s just…

Relationships

6 min read

Reframing Relationships: Alternatives (That Aren’t All Polyamory!)
Reframing Relationships: Alternatives (That Aren’t All Polyamory!)

Published in Heart Affairs

·Jan 13, 2020

Are Rough Sex Acts the New Normal?

He was the perfect guy…until he wasn’t. — Noel and I spent 3 nearly-perfect days together right before he had to leave the country. Our meeting was characterized by coincidences that aided in our fast boding: -First, we discovered that we shared an interest in natural building and a strong affinity for Nepal. We met in Mexico, but…

Sex

6 min read

Are Rough Sex Acts the New Normal?
Are Rough Sex Acts the New Normal?

Jan 4, 2020

Doing Mushrooms under the Guidance of Indigenous Shamans

In the hills of Oaxaca, Mexico — Last October, I took a journey through the switchback roads six hours north of Oaxaca de Juarez to attempt to gain isights into the patterns and roadblocks of my own mind by taking psychedelic mushrooms administered by curanderos (healers) during veladas, or traditional healing ceremonies. I participated in two journeys…

Psychedelics

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Doing Mushrooms under the Guidance of Indigenous Shamans
Doing Mushrooms under the Guidance of Indigenous Shamans

Oct 21, 2019

Mindfulness and Discomfort in Relationships

We choose how we react to what happens to us — Dear Me, Ok, so your ex-boyfriend with whom you talk every day has a date. On Monday. With a girl. Who is not you. He has a date, and she sounds great. She sounds confident. She sounds like she has a lot in common with him. Ok, so you are…

Mindfulness

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Manual for Using Mindfulness to Address Discomfort in Relationships
Manual for Using Mindfulness to Address Discomfort in Relationships

Oct 11, 2019

Intentions for a Guided Mushroom Journey in an Indigenous Village

Prequel to a journey through the mind in the hills of Oaxaca, Mexico — Yesterday was Yom Kippur. It was my first time fasting and ‘celebrating’ the holiday, which is about reflection and atonement. I don’t like fasting. It’s really hard. You have this persistent feeling of discomfort that comes from being hungry, but you don’t do anything to try to stop it, like…

Mushrooms

8 min read

Intentions for a Guided Mushroom Journey in an Indigenous Village
Intentions for a Guided Mushroom Journey in an Indigenous Village

Published in P.S. I Love You

·Aug 20, 2019

My Most Important Lesson in Love

…Happened in a Subway Sandwich Shop — Encouragement “Wow, you really haven’t been smoking at all? Not even one cigarette?” Hans shook his head. …

Relationships

7 min read

My Most Important Lesson in Love
My Most Important Lesson in Love

Published in Digital Dating for Dummies

·Aug 18, 2019

My 75% “Success Rate” on Tinder

And What I Learned About How to Stack the Odds for Success — I have had exactly 1 bad Tinder date. And by “Tinder date” I mean times that I have intentionally planned to meet up with someone from Tinder, not the times I happened to make the mistake of going on Tinder in small towns where you inevitably run into everyone you’ve…

Dating

8 min read

My 75% “Success Rate” on Tinder
My 75% “Success Rate” on Tinder

Published in P.S. I Love You

·Jul 8, 2019

On the Difficulty of Letting Go, Even After You’ve Called it Quits

Practical strategies for cutting the cord emotionally — On March 28th, 2019, I broke up with my boyfriend. For the first time in my 11-year adult life, I was the person to initiate the end of a relationship. The end of a relationship with a beautiful, charming, smart, ambitious, kind-hearted person, but we fought all the time and…

Love

7 min read

On the Difficulty of Letting Go, Even After You’ve Called it Quits
On the Difficulty of Letting Go, Even After You’ve Called it Quits
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